5th year Dinner Anniversary at Isa …

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Updated: October 21, 2015
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Some people think I’m crazy to celebrate Devin’s death anniversary.   Some people think I should file that day away and forget its real significance.  I can’t do it though and neither can my kids.  I can feel it coming, even when my life is hectic and I haven’t a clue what day/time or even month it is.  My emotions become edgy and unpredictable.  An eerie sad feeling hovers around.  I don’t think people notice it and if they do, it is never  mentioned.

Devin always had a hard time when his little brother and sister’s death and birth anniversaries came up.  I now have a deeper understanding of how difficult it was for him.  I try to make them lax.   We plan a special dinner and it gives us something to look forward to.  Basically, we celebrate his life.  Some nights end with us dancing on the sidewalk or back at home.  I remember one night, Scarlet told the waiter “it’s my  dad’s birthday and he died!  Will you guys sing happy birthday ?”   Later, the staff paraded to our table with a candle-lit dessert and sang happy birthday to him.  The girls were all smiles 😀

We had our 5th year dinner anniversary this year at a neighborhood restaurant named Isa.  It was delicious.  Steak, caeser salad, brussel sprouts with bacon and fries. The girls played “rock, paper, scissors” to decide their dessert choice.  It took multiple tries and I was afraid the friendly game might erupt into a flat-out screaming match.  Luckily, it didn’t.    The owner brought us BOTH desserts and our night ended with pumpkin mousse and flourless chocolate cake!

And, on our way out, I was told how well-mannered my kids were !!  Bonus.

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  • Jody

    So glad to hear you gals had a great night. I agree with the celebration of Devon’s life and keeping his memory alive, despite his tragic passing. Great way to honor his life. God bless you 🙂

    • Anonymous

      thank you 🙂

  • Michael Golrick

    “Some people think I’m crazy to celebrate Devin’s death anniversary.” That just blows me away. My dad died 40 years ago this summer. I was 21 at the time. I still commemorate it. Always will. It is a milestone. I have a friend, colleague, ex-wife who does the same for her dad. I am not sure why people see it as strange. Today is the day in the place where I now live (south Louisiana) when many families will spend the day cleaning the cemetery, and – if the weather is good – having a picnic on the graves of their families. It is All Soul’s Day.

    I hope you keep your family tradition alive. It is important.

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